Due to differences in thinking, men and women often quarrel over some things after getting together. However, some couples quarrel can make the relationship more quarrelsome, while some couples quarrel only make the rift between the two people wider and wider. That couple's quarrel is the right reason Is it abnormal?
1. Is it normal for couples to quarrel?
It is normal.
Scientific research shows that couples (couples) who quarrel more when they are young will be the most in love and live the happiest lives in the future.
If you are not quarreling over some big principled issues, such as the other party’s cheating, or lifestyle habits, or personalities that are completely mutually exclusive, etc. If it is not about this, but just about trivial matters, then I think You need to get along better. Use your love to be more tolerant of each other. (Running-in is basically something that both couples need and must do)
The fact that you often quarrel shows that you care about each other very much, so your expectations are too high, so you will quarrel if you are not satisfied. This is fundamentally He said it was because he liked each other too much.
2. How couples can reduce the number of quarrels
1. Trust
Don’t betray Let the other person chat with the opposite sex, be open-minded, say anything, whether you are grateful or dissatisfied, say it all, let the other person understand, so that the other person will not think randomly. As long as people think randomly, their thoughts will be out of control, and they often go If you think about the bad things, you will inevitably have a big quarrel in the end.
2. Know how to take care of each other’s feelings
Many times, lovers quarrel in public so that they can’t get off the stage. At this time, you should reflect on your words and deeds and learn to Express your love and suggestions to him in public and let him understand that he is the most important in your mind. In this way, even if there is anything unhappy at this time, he will soon forget it.
It’s about learning to consider issues from the other person’s perspective and be more considerate and understanding.
Why is he angry? Why is he unhappy?
When he is angry, you have to put yourself in the other person’s shoes and consider the other person’s feelings. Only in this way can you understand the reason for his or her emotions. The child is on the verge of breaking out, and only by finding the cause as soon as possible can the conflict be resolved.
3. Learn to control your emotions
As the saying goes, those who have cultivated for a hundred years can cross the same boat, and those who have cultivated for a thousand years can sleep together. Mian, since we are together, we must cherish our fate and make every day we get together happy.
Two people in love must learn to control their emotions. They cannot treat each other as a trash can and dump all negative emotions and negative energy on each other.
At the same timeWhen one party is in a bad mental state, the other party should try not to be affected by his/her emotions and learn to adjust the atmosphere as soon as possible. A few jokes and a funny expression can rescue the other party from the bad state and make the other party feel better. Naturally, I won’t quarrel with you unreasonably.
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