Recently, I had a chat with a few friends in the education and training circle and noticed an interesting phenomenon: there are indeed many outstanding women in this industry, but it seems that everyone is troubled by relationship issues. As a seasoned veteran who has been navigating the education and training circle for many years, I want to talk about this topic today.
First, let me share some observations. Some women in relationships often use the word "breakup" casually, frequently threatening their partners. Honestly, this kind of behavior is quite off-putting. Take my friend Xiaomei, for example. Every time she argued with her boyfriend, she would threaten to break up. Now that they have actually broken up, she is filled with regret. Then there's the issue of dredging up the past. I know a couple where the wife always brings up things from ten years ago, and eventually, the husband couldn't take it anymore and filed for divorce.
When it comes to a sense of security, I think this is a common issue for many women. However, using various alternate accounts to test their boyfriends or having friends test them is really not advisable. I have a colleague who did just that and ended up ruining a perfectly good relationship. In fact, trust is mutual. Giving each other some space can actually make the relationship more stable.
Let"s also talk about double standards. Some women have completely different expectations for themselves and their boyfriends. For example, they can be an hour late, but if their boyfriend is ten minutes late, they threaten to break up. This kind of double standard can really wear a guy down. I know a guy who couldn't stand his girlfriend's double standards and eventually chose to break up.
When it comes to finding a partner, the education and training circle is indeed a good choice. After all, everyone works in a similar environment, and there are plenty of common topics. However, it"s important not to just settle for anyone because there are many women in the company. I have a friend who fell in love with every new person she met, and in the end, none of them worked out. Finding a partner should be about the connection and whether your values align.
Finally, I want to say that whether you"re a man or a woman, you need to learn to put yourself in the other person's shoes in a relationship. Don't always expect the other person to give; you also need to learn to give and be tolerant. After all, a relationship is a two-person endeavor that requires mutual effort.
As one netizen once said, "A good relationship is about mutual growth, not mutual depletion." That's a great point. I hope we can all find the right person in the education and training circle, grow together, and make progress together.
(The cases mentioned in the article are pseudonyms, and any similarities are purely coincidental.)
