Recently, several of my friends have been struggling with the challenge of finding a partner. As someone who has been through this, I can truly empathize with their feelings. Today, I want to discuss this topic and share some of my own experiences and insights.
First and foremost, I believe it's crucial to clearly define your goals. Are you looking to find a like-minded friend to gradually develop a relationship with, or are you aiming directly for marriage? This decision will influence which platforms you should be active on. For instance, I have a friend who is passionate about photography. He met his current girlfriend in a photography group on Douban. Initially, they talked about equipment and composition, and gradually their conversations evolved to include life and future plans.
When it comes to choosing platforms, I think there are just too many social apps available today. Beyond the well-known ones like Tantan and Momo, platforms like Zhihu and Bilibili also offer numerous opportunities. A colleague of mine discovered a Bilibili content creator who shared his taste in food videos. After a few interactions in the comments section, they actually managed to meet in person! However, it"s important to remind everyone to be cautious when making friends online. Always choose a public place for the first meeting.
Regarding conversation skills, I believe sincerity is the most important factor. Many people are obsessed with learning tricks or routines, but it"s really unnecessary. Take my cousin, for example. He was previously very distressed about not knowing how to talk to girls. I advised him to treat the other person as a regular friend and discuss things he's genuinely interested in. Later, he met a girl who enjoys playing video games, and they started chatting about everything from "Honor of Kings" to daily life. Now, they're planning to meet each other's parents.
That said, online dating does require a bit of patience. I know a netizen who chatted on social apps for nearly a year and met over a dozen girls before finding his current girlfriend. He described each meeting as opening a mystery box, which could sometimes be quite disheartening. However, I believe such experiences are also a form of personal growth, helping you to better understand what you truly want.
Finally, whether online or offline, the most important thing in finding a partner is to be your authentic self. I"ve seen many netizens comment that pretending to be someone you're not will eventually be exposed, so it's better to be honest from the start. Indeed, relationships can't be forced, but as long as you remain sincere, you'll eventually meet the right person.
So, to all the singles out there, don"t rush. Take your time. Love sometimes requires a bit of fate and a bit of courage. I hope my sharing can offer you some inspiration, and I wish everyone success in finding their partner soon!
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