Recently, while chatting with my best friend about the topic of love, I realized that many women around us have stumbled in their relationships. Some have given everything for love only to be hurt in return, while others have lost themselves in the constant anxiety of their relationships. As someone who has been through it, I want to share some small wisdoms about love today, hoping to help those who are in a relationship or preparing to enter one.
First and foremost, I believe the most important thing is to learn to love oneself. There's a saying that goes, "The way you treat yourself sets the standard for others." I used to always put my partner first, but later realized that this only made them take me for granted. Now, I regularly buy myself things I like and schedule alone time, which has actually made my relationship healthier. As coco mentioned in the comments, maintaining a proper distance can make love more attractive.
Speaking of distance, I think it"s a crucial aspect in a relationship. During the honeymoon phase, everyone wants to be together all the time, but maintaining a moderate distance is really important. I remember once when I was away on a business trip for a week, and upon returning, I found that my boyfriend cherished our time together even more. This made me realize that sometimes creating some distance intentionally can actually keep the relationship fresh.
Regarding emotional management, I have a small suggestion: just say what you think. I used to like making my partner guess, but it often backfired. Now, I directly express my needs, like "I feel like having hotpot today" or "I need a hug," which has made communication much smoother. After all, no one is a superhero with mind-reading abilities.
When it comes to expectations, I think this is a pitfall many women easily fall into. The perfect male leads in idol dramas are indeed charming, but real-life love is more about warmth in the mundane. Instead of expecting your partner to be flawless, learn to appreciate their authenticity. As one netizen said, true love is 20% passion and 80% rationality.
Lastly, I want to emphasize that self-improvement is really important. Whether it"s in your career or hobbies, investing in yourself is never wrong. When you become better, you naturally attract better people. Remember, love is the icing on the cake, not the fire in the snow.
Love is a course that requires continuous learning, and I hope these small suggestions can help you. Remember, the best love is the one that makes you a better version of yourself. What do you think? Feel free to share your love experiences in the comments section~
