Recently, while chatting with friends about the topic of love, I suddenly realized that many girls around me tend to get "twisted" in relationships. This term sounds a bit abstract, but upon closer thought, it seems like we've all experienced this state to some extent. For example, liking someone but not daring to confess, fearing rejection or loss of face; always being anxious in a relationship, caring deeply yet resorting to suspicion and arguments to test the other's sincerity; and after a breakup, being unable to let go, constantly reminiscing about the past, even feeling that the past relationship was more real than reality.
Honestly, I used to be like that too. Every time I liked someone, my first reaction was "I'm not worthy." Even if the other person showed interest, I would wonder if they were just joking or casually flirting. This sense of low self-worth can really make one increasingly unconfident, even unconsciously placing oneself in a low position, trying to maintain the relationship by pleasing the other. But later, I gradually realized that the most taboo in relationships is this "twisted" mentality. The more you feel unworthy, the more the other person will think you're not good enough; the more you try to please, the more they'll think you're cheap.
As a netizen in the comments section said, "Honesty is the best policy." There's nothing shameful about liking someone; admitting your feelings is actually a form of courage. Men and women are equal in love; there's nothing degrading about a girl pursuing a boy. What's truly degrading is the thought that "taking the initiative is degrading." Instead of obsessing over "Will he like me?" or "Am I good enough for him?", it's better to openly express your feelings. After all, missing the right person is more regrettable than being rejected.
Speaking of being "twisted" in love, I also think of an interesting phenomenon: many girls unconsciously mold themselves into certain "types" in relationships. For example, some girls present themselves as "gentle and caring," others as "independent and self-reliant," and some as "cute and coquettish." There's nothing wrong with these types per se, but if you change yourself deliberately to meet the other's expectations, that's really twisted.
In fact, the most important thing in a relationship is to be your true self. As mentioned in a video I recently saw, there are ten different types of girls in love, each with its unique charm. For instance, some girls are "rational and calm," very logical in relationships, not easily swayed by emotions; some are "emotional and romantic," expressing love in subtle ways; and some are "independent and self-reliant," maintaining their self in relationships, not losing their life focus because of love.
These types are not good or bad; the key is whether you can accept yourself as you are and find someone who appreciates your true self. If you're naturally rational and calm but pretend to be emotional and romantic, it will only tire both you and the other person. As another netizen in the comments said, "More care, less pretense." True love should be between two real people, understanding and supporting each other, not changing oneself to please the other.
Finally, I want to say that the most taboo in love is being "twisted." Whether it's liking someone or managing a relationship, learn to let go of unnecessary worries and pretenses. Like someone? Go for it. Love someone? Love them well. Break up? Let go. Instead of wasting time on endless internal conflicts, enjoy every moment of the present. After all, life is long; why miss a better future for the wrong person?
So, sisters, stop being twisted! Let go, accept the present, everything is the best arrangement.
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