Recently, I had a chat with a few single friends and found that everyone is struggling with finding a girlfriend. Honestly, I was once part of the "single dog" army, and I deeply understand the frustration of wanting to break free from singlehood but always hitting a wall. Today, I want to share some of my insights, hoping to help brothers who are troubled by their single status.
First of all, I want to say, never confess your feelings right away! This is a mistake many guys make. Like my friend Xiao Zhang, who rushed to confess his feelings to a girl he just met a few days ago, and the result was predictable. A netizen commented, "After being rejected, things became lukewarm," which is indeed a true reflection of many people's experiences. After a failed confession, the difficulty of pursuing a girl really multiplies, as Rete said, "at least ten times harder."
Actually, finding a girlfriend really needs to be a gradual process. From initial acquaintance to being ordinary friends, then to a close friendship, and finally to the intimate stage and establishing a romantic relationship. This process is like cooking a good soup; the heat must be just right, and you can"t rush it. A netizen asked, "How long does this process take?" There really isn't a fixed time; the key is to let things happen naturally.
When it comes to the skills of pursuing a girl, I think the most important thing is to know how to "control and release freely." Don't be too enthusiastic when pursuing; keeping an appropriate distance can actually make it easier to catch a girl's attention. As Ge Yimou said, be a bit cold at the beginning, then warm up later, so the girl's fondness for you will continue to rise. I have a friend who was too enthusiastic, sending good morning and good night messages every day, and the girl ended up thinking he was too clingy.
Another important point is to learn to invest in yourself. Instead of spending all your money on buying gifts for girls, spend more on improving yourself. Get a handsome haircut, buy a few decent outfits, go out more, and take some nice photos to post on your social media. This not only boosts your confidence but also makes girls think you"re an interesting person. As a netizen commented, "Just find someone who likes you," but the premise is that you have to make yourself attractive first.
Finally, I want to say, don"t be too hasty when it comes to finding a girlfriend. It's like cooking rice; when the heat is right, it will naturally be done. I hope my experiences can help brothers who are troubled by their single status. Remember, good relationships come naturally; don't rush them. Wishing everyone can find their ideal partner soon!
