Recently, while chatting with friends, we stumbled upon a particularly interesting topic: What do girls really mean when they say "going to take a shower" and "ignoring you"? As someone who has navigated through many pitfalls in this area, I decided to share my insights. After all, the subtext in what girls say can sometimes be more challenging to decipher than the reading comprehension section of a college entrance exam, haha.
Let's start with the phrase "going to take a shower." In reality, when a girl says she's going to take a shower, it doesn't necessarily mean she's actually going to do so. Sometimes, this phrase hides a lot of subtle intentions. For instance, she might be testing you to see if you can catch her drift. As one commenter, "Witty Little Red Flower 9P2," put it: "The subtext is: I'm going to get all clean, what about you?" In such moments, if you can cleverly respond, perhaps with a joke like "Want to shower together?", you might steer the conversation in a more interesting direction. Of course, this is assuming your relationship is already quite close; otherwise, it might come off as a bit intrusive.
Another scenario is when a girl says "going to take a shower" as a hint that she's preparing to go out. Yes, sometimes taking a shower is part of a girl's pre-outing ritual. She might be waiting for you to invite her out, such as "After your shower, want to grab a coffee?" If you can seize this moment, you might just successfully arrange a date. However, girls can sometimes say one thing and mean another; they might want to go but verbally decline a few times. In such cases, you'll need to be patient and invite her a few more times before she might "reluctantly" agree.
Of course, there"s also the more disheartening possibility—she might just be using it as an excuse to end the conversation. For example, you're enthusiastically chatting with her, and suddenly she says, "I'm going to take a shower," only for you to find out she's scrolling through her social media feed. In this case, it's likely she's not that interested in you. While it's a bit harsh, it's better to face reality early on, as forcing things never leads to sweet outcomes.
Now, let"s talk about the phrase "ignoring you." Many guys might immediately think, "Oh no, she's mad," when they hear a girl say "ignoring you." But in reality, when a girl says "ignoring you," it often doesn't mean she's actually ignoring you. Instead, it might mean she cares about you and is perhaps being a bit coquettish. As the article mentions, girls are often creatures of contradiction. When she says "ignoring you," she's actually waiting for you to coax her; when she says "it's nothing," she's really telling you "it's something big"; when she says "it's okay," she's hinting that "it's not okay at all."
So, when you hear a girl say "ignoring you," don't take it at face value. Instead, try responding in a light-hearted tone, such as "Then I'll keep bothering you until you pay attention to me." Trust me, in such moments, the girl is probably chuckling inside.
Finally, I want to say that understanding the subtext of what girls say does require some experience and skill, but more importantly, it requires you to genuinely feel her emotions and attitudes. After all, everyone expresses themselves differently, and there"s no one-size-fits-all formula. The most important thing is to remain sincere and patient, gradually getting to know and understand her.
That"s all for today's sharing. If you have similar experiences or thoughts, feel free to chat with me in the comments. After all, when it comes to matters of the heart, we're all navigating through trial and error!
