Recently, while chatting with a few buddies about the topic of dating, we all felt a bit reflective. With the proliferation of social apps, finding a girlfriend seems easier, but truly lasting relationships are rare. Often, after confirming a romantic relationship, it doesn't take long before a breakup occurs, feeling like a waste of time. So today, I want to discuss how to understand a girl's true thoughts from psychological to behavioral aspects, to determine if she is suitable for a serious relationship.
Firstly, to see if a girl is suitable to be a girlfriend, the most important thing is to see if she reciprocates. A relationship is a two-way street, not a one-sided effort. For example, when you go out with a girl, it's expected that the guy pays, but sometimes for small expenses like buying a bottle of water or a skewer, if she is closer to the payment code and you are carrying bags, yet she waits for you to pay, it's either a lack of emotional intelligence or she simply doesn't want to reciprocate. It's better to stay away from such girls.
Secondly, observe who she frequently associates with. Birds of a feather flock together. If she often hangs out with gamblers, she might be a mahjong or poker enthusiast herself, and after marriage, she might spend most of her time away from home. Therefore, to find a reliable girlfriend, start by understanding who she usually spends time with.
Let"s talk about the quality of kindness. Kindness is a quality that transcends all. If a person lacks basic kindness, she might ignore abused animals, stand by when an elderly person stumbles and falls, find amusement in mocking others, and remain indifferent to societal tragedies. Can you expect such a person to treat you with sincerity and kindness?
Another interesting point is to look at the difference between her real self and her photos. It's understandable if a girl doesn't look as good in person as in her photos, as everyone edits their pictures nowadays. But if the editing turns into "Should I leave?" it's a significant issue. If a girl doesn't look as good in person, it suggests she likes to package herself, even if she's not part of any elite social groups, she at least understands some of these negative influences. Moreover, if she likes to package herself, her social channels are open, meaning she could meet new friends at any time, and unless you are good enough, problems are likely to arise in the future.
Lastly, mutual attraction is the beginning of a good relationship. Some say, in the end, isn"t it about pursuing first? If you don't pursue, how can you have the chance to attract her? But from a woman's perspective, if you don't attract her, how can you have the chance to pursue her? For example, when you ask her what kind of guy she likes, she could choose not to tell you; when you invite her out, she could choose not to come; when you chat with her, she could choose to ignore you for various reasons; when you want to pursue her, she could choose to reject any chance of you pursuing her. Especially in environments like schools or places where you frequently see each other, whether you can pursue her might already have an answer in her heart.
In conclusion, understanding a girl's true thoughts and determining if she is suitable for a serious relationship requires a comprehensive consideration from multiple aspects. I hope these insights are helpful, and I wish everyone can find the right person!
