Lately, I've been pondering a question: Why can some people effortlessly comfort girls and even successfully strike up a conversation at the right moment, while others always seem at a loss and miss opportunities? In fact, it's not just about skills; it's more about the contest of emotional intelligence and mindset. Today, I want to discuss this topic with you and share some of my insights and reflections.
First of all, comforting a girl is not as simple as saying "don't be sad." When a girl says she's "gloomy," she's often expressing an emotional need rather than actually seeking a solution from you. Therefore, a high emotional intelligence approach to comfort must make her feel your concern and also make her feel understood. For example, you can use simple yet ambiguous language to ease her mood, such as "Baby, don't be gloomy, when you're unhappy, my heart is in turmoil" or "What's got you down, silly? I feel heartbroken when you're not happy." These words might sound a bit cheesy, but girls really respond to this! They need a sense of being cared for, not cold advice.
Of course, words alone are not enough; actions are also important. For instance, when she"s feeling down, you can proactively suggest doing something she enjoys, like watching a movie, eating dessert, or simply giving her a hug. The power of body language is often more direct than words, and a warm hug can really make her feel instantly reassured. As one netizen said, "Sometimes what a girl needs is not what you say, but what you do."
When it comes to striking up a conversation, many people find it particularly challenging, especially when facing a girl they like, often feeling nervous and shy unconsciously. But in reality, striking up a conversation isn"t that complicated. Scottie Barnes, a player for the Raptors, once said, "Go to a mall, find someone you like, and ask for their phone number, don't be shy." This sounds simple, but it actually reflects confidence and courage. The key to striking up a conversation is to make the other person feel your sincerity and naturalness, not a deliberate attempt to please.
I remember once, I saw a girl in a coffee shop who was reading a book and looked very focused. I was quite nervous at the time, but I mustered the courage to walk over and simply asked, "Is this book good?" Unexpectedly, she looked up and started chatting with me with a smile. Later, we added each other on WeChat and even had coffee together a few times. In fact, striking up a conversation really doesn't require complex skills; as long as you are sincere enough, the other person can feel it.
Of course, whether it"s comforting or striking up a conversation, the most important thing is mindset. Many people fail not because of a lack of skills, but because they care too much about the outcome. As one netizen commented, "I used to always think about how to please girls, but ended up being treated as a backup. Later, I realized that instead of trying to please, it's better to be my true self." Indeed, girls prefer guys who are confident, interesting, and know how to care for others, not those who only know how to cater to them.
So, if you also want to navigate relationships with ease, you might as well start by improving your emotional intelligence. Learn to comfort girls with humor and sincerity, and strike up conversations with confidence and courage, and you"ll find that love is not as out of reach as you might think. Finally, here's a piece of advice for everyone: Be a little braver, a little more sincere, and you'll find that the world is much gentler than you imagined.
