As a post-00s girl, I recently chatted with my close friends about relationships and found that we all share a common concern: why do we always tend to overexert ourselves in love? We just want to have a good relationship, but end up exhausting ourselves. Today, I want to share some of my insights, hoping to help sisters who are troubled by love.
I remember a conversation with a friend who said, "I treat him so well, why doesn't he cherish me?" This really struck a chord with me. Our generation, having grown up watching too many idol dramas, often thinks that love should be passionate and that the more you give, the more you can move the other person. But reality often slaps us in the face, as one netizen commented: "The more you care, the less they do."
Actually, love really doesn't need to be so intense. I've summarized a few tips from my own and my friends' painful lessons:
First, don't make love the center of your life. I've noticed that many sisters revolve entirely around their partners once they start dating, even giving up their own hobbies and interests. This not only puts immense pressure on the other person but also makes you lose your charm. As my roommate said, "The more you have your own life, the more they want to know about you."
Second, don't bare your heart too soon. Rushing to confess your feelings and trying to show all your good sides too early can make you seem too easy to get. As one netizen aptly put it, "Relationships should develop slowly, like cooking a good soup; too much heat will ruin it."
Moreover, learn to appropriately "cool off." This isn't about playing hard to get, but about giving each other some space. A friend of mine was too clingy, insisting on video calls every day, which only made the other person more distant. When she started focusing on herself, the other person came back to her.
Lastly, and most importantly, don't date just for the sake of dating. Our post-00s generation sometimes is too eager to be in a relationship, panicking when we see our friends dating. But actually, being single is the best time to improve yourself. As one girl in the comments said, "When you are good enough, the right person will come naturally."
Speaking of which, I suddenly remembered a video I saw a few days ago, where a post-00s girl said, "Boys nowadays are too reclusive, they don't take the initiative." Actually, I think whether it's boys or girls, in relationships, one should learn to take the initiative but also know when to stop. After all, good relationships are about mutual effort, not a one-man show.
In conclusion, love really doesn't need to be so intense. Keep your own pace, be the best version of yourself, and the right person will come along. I hope these little insights of mine can help those of you troubled by love. Remember, you deserve to be cherished, don't compromise yourself in a relationship!
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