Many brothers joined the girl’s WeChat account and couldn’t wait to contact the girl every day. In fact, it is completely unnecessary. Contacting each other every day will not make your relationship better, and may even accelerate your relationship to the abyss. Let’s analyze for everyone: Do you need to contact a girl every day? Why don’t you recommend that you contact girls every day? Because chasing girls and contacting them every day is easy to make the following mistakes:
1. Contacting every day exposes a sense of need
What does it mean? When you first add a girl, you chat non-stop. Fortunately, two days is fine. After three or five days, do you think girls won’t know what you are thinking in your heart?
If you don’t have any profit, you can’t afford to go early. Girls are not stupid. If you like someone, it will be engraved on your forehead. That is to say, if you chat with a girl every day, the girl will know that you are interested in her. This is called - exposing your purpose (sense of need)
Because once you reveal that you like a girl very much, all you want is, Two results. If a girl likes you, fine! Then she will definitely be happy to contact you every day. Who doesn’t want to contact the person they like every day?
But, if she doesn’t like you, do you think she will talk to you again? Most likely not, because she already thinks in her heart that you are not the person she wants, so she will not have any subsequent emotional development with you.
We are all adults, whose time is not valuable? So, the best way is - don't reveal your purpose. Start adding friends. When you get to know her, don't tell her everything, and don't chat with her every day. Follow your heart and chat a few words when you are free or in a good mood. At this time, the main focus should be - attraction.
Because the attraction between people is the strongest when they first get to know each other, and the best state is: still holding the pipa and half covering their faces. For example: You are most excited when you see the looming murderer in the movie. But once the murderer comes out and everything is exposed, you will find it meaningless. By the same token, it's curiosity and attraction. Therefore, there is no need to contact girls every day. You can chat a few words at first to attract them, and then gradually get to know each other more deeply.
2. Contact with girls every day will weaken the attraction.
Chatting with girls every day will lead to the weakening of attraction. Why do I say this? As I said before, attraction comes from the unknown and curiosity. If you have a very good and handsome image, girls will respond better. But if your conversation is not interesting and it is not fun to get along with you, the chances of attraction will weaken. Girls will follow you because they are attracted to you, not because they like you because they contact you every day.
Let me tell you clearly: daily contact has little to do with attraction, and may even make you lose attraction. Because contacting her every day is destined to lead to more and more information she knows about you, and your topics will become less and less.
Think about it: all day long - have you eaten, good morning, good night, went to bed, okay, what are you doing? It would be meaningless to talk about it too much , then if chatting and getting along with you is not interesting, the girl will not be with you.
So, what you should do is to increase your own attractiveness. This can be increased through chatting. The most important thing is the initial attraction, then the exchange of information, and the emotional chat later, so that you are deeply attracted.
3. If you contact someone every day, the price will drop easily.
Boys are taught from an early age to take the initiative and chase after someone without restraint. Girls are taught from an early age to be reserved, quiet and steady. This is the traditional concept of society. Boys should take the initiative to shoulder social responsibilities. Girls should be reserved and not be too proactive. If they are too proactive, they will lose their value. In fact, this is the same for boys. If boys are too proactive, they will lose their price very much. It’s just that no one told you.
This principle is very simple. First ask if there is anyone you feel is not worthy of you, or is there anyone who feels that you are not worthy of you? Definitely! Have you ever wondered why this is?
What kind of person you are will match what kind of person you are. Once you find that the other person's value is lower than yours, or too much higher than yours, you will feel that there is a mismatch, which will lead to being unworthy or feeling that they are not worthy of you. So why would this result in such an increase or decrease in value? The reason is because - too proactive in giving and providing value.
If you are too proactive, your price will drop. Boys pay too much attention to girls and treat her like a goddess. The balance of value will naturally tilt to her side, and your value will decrease. That's the truth. So you don’t have to be particularly proactive. It’s okay to be polite and slightly proactive at first, but contacting them every day will create this feeling of value mismatch.
4. Contacting girls every day will put pressure on girls
When you are giving or being too proactive, chatting with girls every day time. If she likes you, she will be happy to chat with you. She doesn't like you and feels that seeing your WeChat message is a kind of "invisible pressure". It’s not good to write you a reply, because you will keep chatting, after all, you like her. It would be rude not to reply to you. The more you send messages, the more pressure girls will feel and the more disgusted they will be and they will stay away from you. This puts pressure on girls. So you don’t need to contact a girl every day.
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